improvparty.com   SUBMIT


  close

Great improvisers are great listeners. Great actors are great listeners. Listening is the foundation of the performing arts.

We cannot be in moment if we are not listening. It is impossible.

We cannot react to our fellow actor if we are not listening. It won’t happen.

Why?

Because if we aren’t listening, we aren’t open to what we are getting from our scene partner, and that means we have cut ourselves off from any sort of spontaneity.

Listening is a skill. It can be learned. It takes discipline and courage.

Our ego wants us to talk and fill in the silences with blah blah blah blah blah. It will have us talk over other people and dominate with our words.

But to be good actors and improvisers, we need to learn to shut the fuck up if we are to be affected on stage.

I have never done a show and afterwards said, “I think I listened as much as possible.” No, I always find places in my performances where I could have slowed down and taken in my scene partners and the audience more.

When I look back at the good shows, I realize they were good because I was listening my ass off. I was not ahead of myself, but instead I was reacting to the last thing my partner was saying to me.

This is a skill I constantly need to work on. Here are three things you can do in your everyday life that can develop your listening skills to make you a better performer.

  1. Meditation
    Meditation is one of the best tools I’ve found that can improve my listening skills. When I meditate, I realize how many crazy thoughts and conspiracy theories I have swirling around in my head on a daily basis. When I do it first thing in the morning, I find it quiets my mind and gives me a little more space during the day to really hear what people are saying to me. I have found that it can turn off those awful negative tapes in my head that say “I’m not good enough” and “I suck.” When I meditate before I improvise, I find that it helps me keep my focus in a scene and stops distracting thoughts from coming into my performance.
  1. Editing the script in your head
    I like to do this when I am in a low-stakes conversation. Let’s say you are having a casual conversation with someone and in the first five seconds of the conversation you know exactly what you are going to say. All you need to do is wait for them to stop talking so you can recite what you’ve already written in your head. Instead of giving that response, I throw it out and try to respond to the last thing they just said. I have found that 80% of the time, a new thought will come out. What I love about this exercise is it gets you to be more in the moment with your responses.
  1. Observe people’s body language
    Listening is not just words. It is also about paying attention to people’s non-verbal emotional and physical cues. As you go around the day, look at the people you see: the woman at Starbucks, the check-out guy in the supermarket, the people at your day job. As you observe them, try to figure out how they are feeling in the moment. Are they angry, happy, sad, afraid? For example, at your day job, do people look excited because they are bringing in pizza for lunch or scared because they won’t hit their deadlines? You’ll be amazed at how much you can pick up from people just by paying close attention to their body language and facial expressions, without sharing a single word.

If you have any other good listening exercises, please feel free to share them in the comments section since I am always looking for new ways to improve these skills.

The post 3 Ways to Improve Your Listening Skills appeared first on Jimmy Carrane.